OXFORD — Gordon (aka Gordo, G or G1), 81, peacefully slipped the surly bonds of earth on Christmas Day, Dec. 25, 2020, with his beloved Phyllis at his side — in death as in life. In addition to his parents, Ralph and Peg Graves, he is predeceased by his siblings Susan Normoyle and Gene Graves. He is survived by his partner of 30 years, Phyllis Rambo; daughters Traci Paterson (Gary Beasley) and Deborah Graves; stepchildren Monique Rambo (Craig Saunders) and Christopher Rambo (Jennifer); eight grandchildren; many other family and friends; and his faithful companion, Cleo the cat, who sorely misses his warm lap.

Most of Gordon’s professional career was at Rider College (New Jersey), where he especially loved his interactions with students. He was a tinkerer and loved to reason out how things worked. He enjoyed pursuing, repairing, and dealing in antique marine chronometers and clocks. Gordon and Phyllis moved to the Eastern Shore in 2002 and loved their life and friends in Oxford. Gordon was a long-time member and chair of Habitat Choptank Family Selection committee; board member and President of the Oxford Museum; volunteer at the Oxford Community Center; and ended nine plus years as an Oxford Commissioner in October of this year. He was also known as the master of the ‘perfect’ Perfect Manhattan! So, raise a glass and toast a witty, no BS guy who was always comfortable in his own skin, was a great listener, gave sage advice but never insisted you follow it, and was the first to laugh at himself. He will be sorely missed but will live on in our hearts. Celebrate the love in your life and hug someone.

A memorial may be planned at a later date. The family would appreciate donations in Gordon’s name be made to the Oxford Museum, Oxford Community Center or the American Cancer Society.

Please visit www.fhnfuneralhome.com for condolences and to sign the online guestbook.

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